“I can’t do that” was her first response when I suggested that my daughter try a new basketball move. The look of horror on my face would’ve made you believe that she committed a crime that not even a “get out of jail free” card could’ve taken care of. My reply, “Don’t ever assign inadequacy to yourself when you haven’t even tapped into your resources.”
Watch yo’ mouth…
Because it is your greatest weapon for victory or defeat.
There’s a quote that says, “Words are free, it’s how you use them that’ll cost you (author unknown).” The brain believes what it is repeatedly told. It will automatically create the situations that you think or speak because it doesn’t differentiate between reality and imaginary. So if you believe you’re not good enough, your brain will work to create situations that validate your thought of not being good enough. If you believe that you can’t “do it,” your brain will work to create situations that will prove that you can’t do it. When you tell yourself that you’re solely responsible for the well-being of others, you’ll eventually neglect your own. Believe your life will always be like this? Guess what? Then your life will always be like this.
The moral of the story is…
Inadequacy is a myth.
You are only as inadequate as you believe. It is your responsibility to utilize every resource available to you without automatically assigning inadequacy. Before you allow those unsupportive thoughts to flood your mind and/or open your mouth to assign defeat, ask yourself “Did I try?” “Have I challenged myself?” “Have I identified the resources that will get me where I would like to be?” It is only then that you will begin to adopt those empowering beliefs that can support your success, well-being, and fulfillment.